Monday, 30 November 2009

Bigg Boss / Big Brother and us?

They really change the TRP ratings when they run on the prime time, people make several thousand hits over web to know whats going on in this reality show. Everyone is crazy to know what is going on in the house. I reach home from office and watch the repeat telecast of the show.. and I know a lot many others too.... So what is in the house that I like about ? We like about? For may of us I believe it is just the curiosity to peep into others lives... but there is another factor that we knowingly and unknowingly execute... we Observe.. We observe the people that we see over those hidden cameras... we evaluate their characters.. and then we conclude on who is good or bad and who is the winner.

Yes the show is all about Observance.. we watch , they do things... we watch , we analyse... the only issue here been that we observe others and do nothing for them.. except if we vote for them. So what does this show teach you? Nothing? You sure? forget about the bitchy remarks , violent and abusive language... it can teach you a lot.. by one mere thing... Observance...

I recently got to interact with one of the contestants of the Bigg Boss (Indian version of Big Brother) the person said that after he was evicted from the house and he watched the versions of the show where he was a part of it... he felt sad about himself... a chat statement that said

"I could not believe it was me... it was a sicko there, a complete a**hole using my name , face and sleeping with my reputation with every single action"

So what made him say this? Observance...He observed himself and he got exactly what he has being looking for....Observing one self is an art.. many of us posses it... just that we dont use the skill effectively... we dont realise that we posses it... sometimes we dont even know what we should observe and get what out of it... Ideally there are 2 types of observers in us ... we ignore 1 ridiculously and dont care about the other...so what are these observers like?

1. Intrinsic Observer : This is an observer that keeps a tarck of what we do inside our brains and heart... Have you noticed a voice telling you that you are lying your Management about the figures you are showing in the presentation and that you are ridiculously falling behind? its the Internal observer that tells you that beware .. the road ahead is bumpy....

Intrinsic Observation is also when you do something and there are lot of thoughts behind it.... you revisit what you have done... and conclude what you should be doing next time... The internal observer is the most powerful observer... it keeps on recommending us.. but we shose to ignore it completely.... simply so we can do what we want to do.

Extrinsic Observer : The Observer within you that watches the externals of you, what you do, how you do, how clean you keep your desk, Project Plan, Work sheet etc etc... The moment we start observing ourselves and the external factors associated we derive a lot of things that we would want to change... instance the external observer tells me that we lost the last client only because we chose not to have a flashy presentation and outlook. next time you improve... or you realise that the Team follows you in keeping their desks clean... you improve.. they do.

Undoubtedly if any of the observer within you awakens.. and makes you think of the change... you are good to learn from mistakes... the moment you choose not to listen to them... you are beating yourself to death.. and yes with a nail driven whip...

So what do you do now? Listen to your Observer... he is saying something... Lets listen what it has to say...